Mail Bag: Should I get my parents approval before getting married?

Should I get my parents approval before getting married?

-Mandy Los Lunas, New Mexico Great question! Here's a few questions that came to mind when I read your e-mail. -Does their approval matter to you? -Do your parents like your man/lady? -Is it old fashioned? First, obviously you care about how your parents feel because you wouldn't be asking the question in the first place, right? Does age matter? How old are you? Now if you're a 17 year old girl waiting to marry your high school sweetheart, I think you absolutely should get their approval and that's assuming it's legal in your state. I also think that goes for anyone under 21, I really feel that you don't really know what you want at that ripe old age, now, I know some might disagree with me saying..."well, my grandparents have been married for 500 years blah, blah". Relationships and environmental factors are so different now, agree? Do your parents "like" him or her? Maybe you already know what the answer is if you do decided to ask your parents for permission. Is it a big fat "NO"? Maybe you should take this into consideration before saying "YES, YES I'll frikkin' marry you!!". As a fellow parent, in most cases I feel your parents genuinely want the best for you, should it be a deciding factor? Maybe not, but I do feel it's something to consider. Is it old fashioned? Absolutely! But, I do feel a blessing from your 'rents is a great way to kick off your fantabulous life with your future soul mate. It also shows a sign of respect and maturity. Hope that helps! Carlos